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"How come can you leave at this time and still have a smile in your face?"

That was what I heard from a friend last day, as I left Him @ 1 pm. I stopped for a moment, trying to figure that out. "What could make me feel that happy?" I thought for a second. Then I remembered of an article that I read a few days ago and has a lot to do with it.

"The 90/10 Principle" - by Stephen Covey

What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your sister knocks over a cup of coffee onto your favirote shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your sister for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your mom and ask her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.

Back downstairs, you find your sister has been crying to finish breakfast and get ready for college. She misses the bus. Your mom must leave immediately for work. You rush to the bike and drive your sister to college.

Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing traffic fine away, you arrive at college. Your sister runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.

You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in misunderstanding with your mom and sister. Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your sister cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your sister is about to cry. You gently say, "It's OK dear, you just need to be more careful next time."

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you should check whether your sister has got the bus. And you shouldnt except everything should happen.. like your sister should wave you back... because she may be in hurry.. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

P.S. Its not only happens to the person like this persons family.... its how u take on every person... with your friends...with your girl friend... with every one......

"There are only two days in a year that nothing can be done. One is yesterday and the other is tomorrow. Therefore, TODAY is the day to love, trust, act and LIVE".

Have a good day! ;o)

Mom's Love

When You were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you.
You thanked her by cryin all night long.

When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.
You thanked her by runnin away when she called.

When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love.
You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.

When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays.
You thanked her by plopping to the nearest.

When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school.
You thanked her by screamin, "I'M NOT GOING!".

When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball.
You thanked her by throwin it through the next-door neighbor's window.

When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice-cream.
You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9 years old, she paid for piano lessons.
You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10 years old she drove you all day, from soccer to gymnastic to one birthday party after another.
You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never lookin back.

When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies.
You thanked her by askin to sit in a different row.

When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.
You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

When you were 13, she suggested a haircut.
You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.
You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came home from work looking for a hug.
You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to drive her car.
You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.
You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation.
You thanked her by stayin out partying until dawn.

When you were 19, she paid for your college tution, drove you to campus carried your bags.
You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone.
You thanked her by saying. "it's none of your business."

When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.
You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you."

When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation.
You thanked her by askin whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.
You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

When you were 24, she met your fiancé and asked about your plans for the future.
You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!"

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply she loved you.
You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby.
You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now."

When you were 40, She called to remind you of a relative's birthday.
You thanked her by sayin you were "really busy right now."

When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.
You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

And then, one day, she quietly died. And everything you never did came crashing down like thunder on your HEART.
IF SHE'S STILL AROUND, NEVER FORGET TO LOVE HER MORE THAN EVER.. AND IF SHE'S NOT, REMEMBER HER UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND PASS IT ON.. ALWAYS REMEMBER TO LOVE THY MOTHER, BECAUSE YOU ONLY HAVE ONE MOTHER IN YOUR LIFETIME!!!!