"How come can you leave at this time and still have a smile in your face?"
That was what I heard from a friend last day, as I left Him @ 1 pm. I stopped for a moment, trying to figure that out. "What could make me feel that happy?" I thought for a second. Then I remembered of an article that I read a few days ago and has a lot to do with it.
"The 90/10 Principle" - by Stephen Covey
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your sister knocks over a cup of coffee onto your favirote shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your sister for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your mom and ask her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your sister has been crying to finish breakfast and get ready for college. She misses the bus. Your mom must leave immediately for work. You rush to the bike and drive your sister to college.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing traffic fine away, you arrive at college. Your sister runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in misunderstanding with your mom and sister. Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your sister cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your sister is about to cry. You gently say, "It's OK dear, you just need to be more careful next time."
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you should check whether your sister has got the bus. And you shouldnt except everything should happen.. like your sister should wave you back... because she may be in hurry.. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
P.S. Its not only happens to the person like this persons family.... its how u take on every person... with your friends...with your girl friend... with every one......
That was what I heard from a friend last day, as I left Him @ 1 pm. I stopped for a moment, trying to figure that out. "What could make me feel that happy?" I thought for a second. Then I remembered of an article that I read a few days ago and has a lot to do with it.
"The 90/10 Principle" - by Stephen Covey
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your sister knocks over a cup of coffee onto your favirote shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your sister for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your mom and ask her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your sister has been crying to finish breakfast and get ready for college. She misses the bus. Your mom must leave immediately for work. You rush to the bike and drive your sister to college.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing traffic fine away, you arrive at college. Your sister runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in misunderstanding with your mom and sister. Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your sister cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your sister is about to cry. You gently say, "It's OK dear, you just need to be more careful next time."
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you should check whether your sister has got the bus. And you shouldnt except everything should happen.. like your sister should wave you back... because she may be in hurry.. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
P.S. Its not only happens to the person like this persons family.... its how u take on every person... with your friends...with your girl friend... with every one......
"There are only two days in a year that nothing can be done. One is yesterday and the other is tomorrow. Therefore, TODAY is the day to love, trust, act and LIVE".
Have a good day! ;o)
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